You know deep down inside that you are a good man. You know you need to stop cheating. So, what's the problem? The problem is that you don't know how to stop cheating on your wife. You started and it all just sort of snowballed from there. A one time thing turned into a full blown affair and you really just don't know how to stop now that you've started.
It's a common trap that far too many men, and women for that matter, fall into. There is no such thing as a one time affair. It's like eating chocolate when you're on a diet. You can't just stop with one bite. Before you know it you've gone through an entire candy bar.
So, how do you stop cheating on your wife?
1) Just Say No – to the other woman. That is the first step you have to take. If she threatens to tell your wife, beat her to it. It will be much better coming from your mouth when your wife founds out anyway. But the first thing you have to do is cut all ties and end all dealings with the other woman. Whatever it takes – even if it means changing jobs, moving, whatever.
2) Tell Your Wife – and take the lumps as they come. You may lose your wife. That was the risk you took when you decided to cheat. If you are honest with her about the cheating and the fact that you've gone to great lengths to cut ties with the other woman she may find forgiveness a littler easier to deliver than you'd expect. Either way it is better to have her find out now when you are prepared than to be blind-sided by it in the future.
3) Work on things at Home – when you make a sincere effort to make your marriage stronger you will be much less inclined to look elsewhere. The problem with cheating that many men face is that once they've done it it's hard to stop. You're going to have to seriously invest in your marriage and your wife to keep your mind off all other temptations and distractions. You can do it!
4) Discuss your Needs – with your wife. You need to find out how to get the needs the other woman met at home. If you do not, you're going to find yourself in the same situation in the future. This is not what you want for yourself or your marriage and not conducive to stopping cheating once and for all.
It's a common trap that far too many men, and women for that matter, fall into. There is no such thing as a one time affair. It's like eating chocolate when you're on a diet. You can't just stop with one bite. Before you know it you've gone through an entire candy bar.
So, how do you stop cheating on your wife?
1) Just Say No – to the other woman. That is the first step you have to take. If she threatens to tell your wife, beat her to it. It will be much better coming from your mouth when your wife founds out anyway. But the first thing you have to do is cut all ties and end all dealings with the other woman. Whatever it takes – even if it means changing jobs, moving, whatever.
2) Tell Your Wife – and take the lumps as they come. You may lose your wife. That was the risk you took when you decided to cheat. If you are honest with her about the cheating and the fact that you've gone to great lengths to cut ties with the other woman she may find forgiveness a littler easier to deliver than you'd expect. Either way it is better to have her find out now when you are prepared than to be blind-sided by it in the future.
3) Work on things at Home – when you make a sincere effort to make your marriage stronger you will be much less inclined to look elsewhere. The problem with cheating that many men face is that once they've done it it's hard to stop. You're going to have to seriously invest in your marriage and your wife to keep your mind off all other temptations and distractions. You can do it!
4) Discuss your Needs – with your wife. You need to find out how to get the needs the other woman met at home. If you do not, you're going to find yourself in the same situation in the future. This is not what you want for yourself or your marriage and not conducive to stopping cheating once and for all.
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