Women are expressive. Men are not. Women are sensitive. Men are expected to be tough. You hear a man talk about his feelings openly, you will assume he's gay. You see a very heartwarming movie and you wonder why men are not crying like you do. They don't like sad movies and prefer war films or action packed movies because they are not supposed to cry. Someone died in the family, men try to hold their tears back even they want to explode while women cry like there's no tomorrow. You wonder why this is so? Don't blame our testicles. It has nothing to do with our anatomy. It's the society you should blame. Simply because the society said so.
When we think about it, men are human beings too. Yet the society placed standards that require us to wear a tough mask all the time. This is the major reason why men find it difficult to express love or what they feel for that matter. Men are raised this way and sadly, no matter what changes come our way, this one is part of the few things that are constant in this world. This is the root of our difficulty. We find it hard to express our love because some idiot thought that men are not supposed to be expressive. Another sad thing about this is that we won't be able to find the culprit and have him/her pay for the hardship s/he brought to men.
This is why when most men drink, you get surprised by how differently they behave. You get bewildered by how talkative most men become. It may be funny when some men cry like babies after a strong kick of alcohol. We have been forced to hide our feelings and keep it to ourselves. So please bare with us when we seem to be stiff and cold. It takes time for us to warm up.
You know why? Because we are afraid. We are afraid that we won't be able to live up to what is expected of us. We are afraid that people will see us differently. We fear that if we show what we feel, we won't be seen as someone who deserves to be called as "the man." As we grow, we have build a quite strong wall around us that is quite difficult to crack. It takes time. So dear girls, try to be patient on us. We'll get there. I promise.
The thing is, men need to be comfortable first before they get to come out of their shell. You need to earn your man's trust first before you see his soft side. Don't hate us if we hide things from you or when we decide to shut our mouth, lock our doors and cry quietly alone. You need to ensure us first that you will not mock us if we cry.
Since we are built to not express what we feel, we are not much of a talker. And assurance for us comes stronger when acted. I think that this is the reason why, more men are into music, painting and other forms of expressive arts. We try to relay our emotions through something else. We find a different avenue, a different language to express what we feel. You don't really have to say it out loud that you won't make fun of us when we cry. You can just show us, though saying it indirectly would help. Another thing about us is that we don't want to admit that we are afraid. Blame it to the society again. They told us to be tough.
When we think about it, men are human beings too. Yet the society placed standards that require us to wear a tough mask all the time. This is the major reason why men find it difficult to express love or what they feel for that matter. Men are raised this way and sadly, no matter what changes come our way, this one is part of the few things that are constant in this world. This is the root of our difficulty. We find it hard to express our love because some idiot thought that men are not supposed to be expressive. Another sad thing about this is that we won't be able to find the culprit and have him/her pay for the hardship s/he brought to men.
This is why when most men drink, you get surprised by how differently they behave. You get bewildered by how talkative most men become. It may be funny when some men cry like babies after a strong kick of alcohol. We have been forced to hide our feelings and keep it to ourselves. So please bare with us when we seem to be stiff and cold. It takes time for us to warm up.
You know why? Because we are afraid. We are afraid that we won't be able to live up to what is expected of us. We are afraid that people will see us differently. We fear that if we show what we feel, we won't be seen as someone who deserves to be called as "the man." As we grow, we have build a quite strong wall around us that is quite difficult to crack. It takes time. So dear girls, try to be patient on us. We'll get there. I promise.
The thing is, men need to be comfortable first before they get to come out of their shell. You need to earn your man's trust first before you see his soft side. Don't hate us if we hide things from you or when we decide to shut our mouth, lock our doors and cry quietly alone. You need to ensure us first that you will not mock us if we cry.
Since we are built to not express what we feel, we are not much of a talker. And assurance for us comes stronger when acted. I think that this is the reason why, more men are into music, painting and other forms of expressive arts. We try to relay our emotions through something else. We find a different avenue, a different language to express what we feel. You don't really have to say it out loud that you won't make fun of us when we cry. You can just show us, though saying it indirectly would help. Another thing about us is that we don't want to admit that we are afraid. Blame it to the society again. They told us to be tough.
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